You gave your signals, he gave his and now he has decided to act. What to do? Keep your calm and don’t go nuts. It’s not that big a deal, it’s a chance for you to shine. If you have already made up your mind, share with him. If you need more time to reflect, say yes – it will make it easier on you to decide what you want. It’s a simple date – even if you find no spark, you could still hang out from time to time.
If he has already decided where you’ll spend the date, think about dressing properly. If it’s a sports event, high heels are not the best option, and the opposite – a fancy restaurant is not the place for sneakers! Whatever you choose to wear, don’t forget – it should be comfortable and you need to feel self-confident in it. When that’s thought through, there will be no wardrobe malfunctions to get in the way of having a blast.
Prepare to have fun! Don’t consider only the errors that can occur, think of everything that can go right. Expectations often ruin reality, free yourself of stress and try to have as much fun as possible. A date is an awesome way to get to know each other, because you both know the purpose of it, so you will stay on the right topics.
If you really can’t decide what to do, if you’re stressing out, just speak to him. He is a person, he’ll understand you, talk about what you fear or want so you can be clear even before it starts. Tell him that you’re nervous, perhaps he feels the same way and he’ll definitely try to make you feel more relaxed on the date.
Reflect on what you want to talk about on the date, so that you won’t find yourselves sitting awkwardly in silence. Maybe you are interested in learning certain things about him or you’d like to share your accomplishments with the guy. Anyway, if at a certain point you don’t know what to say to him, don’t worry. It happens to everyone, he won’t see you as boring, he’ll probably be scared you’ll think that of him. So relax and let things take their normal course of action.
Decide on what you want from this date. Is it to make up your mind, or maybe you want to make sure he’s boyfriend material. This way you can find what the results are at the end of the date. Do not be too judgmental if you haven’t spent a lot of time with him previously, give him another chance, you can’t find out everything about a guy just from one date.
You really don’t need to think too much on it – a date is just a date. Two people, getting to know each other and having fun. What’s going to happen later shouldn’t concern you that early, present yourself as you are and what needs to happen will! Don’t push it, if you were made for each other, you will end up together.
